As the year comes to close, it's time to take an inventory of all that I've done for the year and go over the checklist to see what I've accomplished. Well okay, I don't really have a checklist.
This was a year that started off with a layoff, and then I ended up in outplacement and landed a contract with them! Not the usual path, but you have to look at opportunities when they come up.
I like to say that you need a path to follow to manage your career. Was this my plan? No way. But like any snowball thrown at you, you need to adapt. Sometimes I made quick changes and other times I took some time to map out the next step.
When you're thrown off the path and not by your my own choice, it can stall you or derail you. Maybe only for a little time, but then you have to get back on it and get going. I jumped onto the contract role; it was only part time, but it was related to where my path was taking me. I had been looking to move into a Human Resources type role, so career transition consulting was a good fit.
I thought at the time early this year that this would be a stop-gap measure. I would find that next great job and work happily ever after. Didn't quite work out that way. And I've loved it! The job, the people, the whole experience.
My immediate need was to ensure that the finances were covered, and the contract helped with that. Unfortunately the severance didn't last too long. It was done by the time I started working. It was part time and this gave me the time to continue my search for a full time role.
So now the seed was planted that perhaps I could manage working independently and just do contracts to keep me busy. I didn't really need the benefits, and I certainly should see by now that full time jobs are no more secure than anything else.
The year is coming to a close and I sit back to review how my year has played out. I took 3 courses in Life Skills Coaching at George Brown College, and I will get my certificate soon. I attained my Nutrition and Wellness certification, took a course on designing training and started the HR certificate program at Ryerson University.
It's been a busy a year. I see it as 'my year' to focus on me and doing all the courses added to my growth and, I was hoping, would put me back on my path.
I did note that there were many threads in common across all the classes I took. Each time I took a new class, the same topics kept coming up. It made me realize that everything somehow all comes together.
I grew my network, and met lots of amazing people this year. Many I would never have met if I hadn't been laid off and taken all these courses. The training was great, but the relationships and concepts were what really added to my path.
Perhaps all my various paths are coming together to lead me to some great new place. Maybe that full time job is around the corner. And all that I've gained this year and that's brought me to where I am right now, has all been part of my new converging path.
I still keep an eye open for the right opportunity to come along; with the right fit, growth potential, and all the great engagement values I'm looking for to start a long term investment. Until that happens, I'll keep adding to my path and looking for turns and twists that will add more to my travel.
I guess the journey is the important thing, but I still want to know what the destination is!
Monday, December 14, 2009
Friday, September 18, 2009
Crossroads
Are you at a crossroads? With your career, job search, life in general? We work and work madly to get somewhere, but when you put your head up to see where that is, it's not quite where you thought. How did that happen?
I'm sitting at a crossroads myself. I've been shooting in several directions and waiting for something to tell me that I'm on the right path.
I worked many years in IT and went into management and consulting. I think I was good at what I did. I seemed to be respected by my peers, staff and clients. But as I moved around (that's called job-hopping), because I could in the tech area I was an expert in, I found it eventually eroded my corporate climbing ability.
Now not everyone is a climber, and I don't profess to ever want to be the big cheese anywhere. But it would be nice to have earned that nice corner office.
So I have no one to blame, not even myself really. I didn't feel that I wanted to climb in any company I was in. But I have found in the last few jobs I have had, I was coming in at a level lower than my experience should have allowed me. I'm not getting egotistical here. I looked at my peers or those a level or two above me and compared experience.
What did they have that I didn't? They stuck around and rolled with the punches. Good for them. Staying power never seemed to be my strong suit. Now, I was the most loyal employee you could ever ask for. But slight me in the least, ignore my efforts, hold back recognition and I was brushing off my resume. Yeah, yeah, job hopper.
I have on several occasions tried to make it work. Hang in, talk to the boss or even HR in one case, to try and make the place work for me. I gave it my all. But the cards weren't in it. So I moved on before things changed. Part of it is I can bore easily.
So, here I find myself at a crossroads again. I like the part-time gig I have going doing career coaching. I find it rewarding and the people have been great. I have even adjusted to being a contractor/consultant and not being an on the payroll employee.
So why do I find my mind thinking about going back on the employee list? Well part of it is that the part-time gig doesn't quite meet the old salary level expectations. I have been searching for other part-time gigs to fill in the gaps. This would be ideal, if they were out there. But hey, you know what the job market is like, right?
I now have one foot down the consultant road looking for more work and the other starting back on the search for a full-time opportunity. Of course, it never hurts to have options. But I wish I knew which path was the one I wanted for the long run. Not just the one that helps pay the mortgage.
There really are a lot of things to consider when job hunting. Staying focused is one that gets harder the longer you're out looking. But try to keep the parameters of what you want in check. Just because you could do the job, doesn't mean you would want to again.
Keep driving forward in whatever direction seems the best. Or a couple if that's an option. I've found that my varied interests can actually compliment each other. They might seem at first glance to have no overlap at all, but they can if worked properly.
And sometimes you just need to let one path roll along on its own for a little while which could give me a little time to explore another one. The roads may eventually meet up again. I might need to force them somewhat.
But that's what makes us unique. Good hunting!
I'm sitting at a crossroads myself. I've been shooting in several directions and waiting for something to tell me that I'm on the right path.
I worked many years in IT and went into management and consulting. I think I was good at what I did. I seemed to be respected by my peers, staff and clients. But as I moved around (that's called job-hopping), because I could in the tech area I was an expert in, I found it eventually eroded my corporate climbing ability.
Now not everyone is a climber, and I don't profess to ever want to be the big cheese anywhere. But it would be nice to have earned that nice corner office.
So I have no one to blame, not even myself really. I didn't feel that I wanted to climb in any company I was in. But I have found in the last few jobs I have had, I was coming in at a level lower than my experience should have allowed me. I'm not getting egotistical here. I looked at my peers or those a level or two above me and compared experience.
What did they have that I didn't? They stuck around and rolled with the punches. Good for them. Staying power never seemed to be my strong suit. Now, I was the most loyal employee you could ever ask for. But slight me in the least, ignore my efforts, hold back recognition and I was brushing off my resume. Yeah, yeah, job hopper.
I have on several occasions tried to make it work. Hang in, talk to the boss or even HR in one case, to try and make the place work for me. I gave it my all. But the cards weren't in it. So I moved on before things changed. Part of it is I can bore easily.
So, here I find myself at a crossroads again. I like the part-time gig I have going doing career coaching. I find it rewarding and the people have been great. I have even adjusted to being a contractor/consultant and not being an on the payroll employee.
So why do I find my mind thinking about going back on the employee list? Well part of it is that the part-time gig doesn't quite meet the old salary level expectations. I have been searching for other part-time gigs to fill in the gaps. This would be ideal, if they were out there. But hey, you know what the job market is like, right?
I now have one foot down the consultant road looking for more work and the other starting back on the search for a full-time opportunity. Of course, it never hurts to have options. But I wish I knew which path was the one I wanted for the long run. Not just the one that helps pay the mortgage.
There really are a lot of things to consider when job hunting. Staying focused is one that gets harder the longer you're out looking. But try to keep the parameters of what you want in check. Just because you could do the job, doesn't mean you would want to again.
Keep driving forward in whatever direction seems the best. Or a couple if that's an option. I've found that my varied interests can actually compliment each other. They might seem at first glance to have no overlap at all, but they can if worked properly.
And sometimes you just need to let one path roll along on its own for a little while which could give me a little time to explore another one. The roads may eventually meet up again. I might need to force them somewhat.
But that's what makes us unique. Good hunting!
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Life Skills Coaching third module
Day 1
One more time! I embark on the third module for the Life Skills Coaching course at George Brown. The ultimate goal is to gain the certificate for the program.
I reflect back to when I originally decided to start this journey and my thinking at the time was to just see how it goes. The course was just a week of time and if I didn’t like it or felt it wasn’t what I wanted, I could just not take the second module.
After the first module, I came away with the motivation to keep going. I was originally looking for a coaching program to help with my one on one coaching clients. This course was focused on groups. But I liked it.
Understanding group needs and working towards meeting those needs was very interesting. In module 2 we worked at building lesson plans. Keeping it simple and trying to build a lesson that will only run 2 hours seems to be challenging. Who knew? I’ve taught longer course workshops, but I thought a shorter lesson would be easier. Not so. Seems working a lesson plan to fit the time frame does take some work.
So we started module 3 tonight and there was only one other person from the module 2 that I took. In a way this was good as I now get to meet a whole bunch of new people. They all seem to know each other as they have worked together in the earlier modules.
In my module 2 there were 3 new people to our group that was already familiar with each other. It brought some interest to the group; the group discussions were lively and more interesting. So now I’ll see what it’s like from the other side in being the new guy.
The group was very welcoming. There was lots of great disclosure between the group members. The intention for tonight was for us all to get to know each other better. Oh, and we learned what to expect for the rest of the course.
I must have not been in the 'here and now' when we talked about the third module in earlier modules. I certainly don’t remember anything about an exam. Even the journal was a surprise, but that’s not something unexpected. I am looking forward to doing a lesson. Not quite sure how to choose what lesson topic to pick or whether I even get to pick it.
So I try not to worry about it for now, cause I tend to start planning what I’m going to work on. I was probably working on this as soon as heard we would need to do one. But I currently have no ideas in my head right now. So maybe I’ll be able to read the group and come up with something that the group needs.
Next week we’ll find out what night of the course we’ll present our lesson. From that I guess I can gauge what kind of lesson would suit the group depending on if it’s earlier or later in the course.
And I’m kind of missing the intensive week. I haven’t done a night course in many years. That alone is an adjustment, but I liked the intensive. It was concentrated learning. So now unthink and adjust to the needs of the group.
One more time! I embark on the third module for the Life Skills Coaching course at George Brown. The ultimate goal is to gain the certificate for the program.
I reflect back to when I originally decided to start this journey and my thinking at the time was to just see how it goes. The course was just a week of time and if I didn’t like it or felt it wasn’t what I wanted, I could just not take the second module.
After the first module, I came away with the motivation to keep going. I was originally looking for a coaching program to help with my one on one coaching clients. This course was focused on groups. But I liked it.
Understanding group needs and working towards meeting those needs was very interesting. In module 2 we worked at building lesson plans. Keeping it simple and trying to build a lesson that will only run 2 hours seems to be challenging. Who knew? I’ve taught longer course workshops, but I thought a shorter lesson would be easier. Not so. Seems working a lesson plan to fit the time frame does take some work.
So we started module 3 tonight and there was only one other person from the module 2 that I took. In a way this was good as I now get to meet a whole bunch of new people. They all seem to know each other as they have worked together in the earlier modules.
In my module 2 there were 3 new people to our group that was already familiar with each other. It brought some interest to the group; the group discussions were lively and more interesting. So now I’ll see what it’s like from the other side in being the new guy.
The group was very welcoming. There was lots of great disclosure between the group members. The intention for tonight was for us all to get to know each other better. Oh, and we learned what to expect for the rest of the course.
I must have not been in the 'here and now' when we talked about the third module in earlier modules. I certainly don’t remember anything about an exam. Even the journal was a surprise, but that’s not something unexpected. I am looking forward to doing a lesson. Not quite sure how to choose what lesson topic to pick or whether I even get to pick it.
So I try not to worry about it for now, cause I tend to start planning what I’m going to work on. I was probably working on this as soon as heard we would need to do one. But I currently have no ideas in my head right now. So maybe I’ll be able to read the group and come up with something that the group needs.
Next week we’ll find out what night of the course we’ll present our lesson. From that I guess I can gauge what kind of lesson would suit the group depending on if it’s earlier or later in the course.
And I’m kind of missing the intensive week. I haven’t done a night course in many years. That alone is an adjustment, but I liked the intensive. It was concentrated learning. So now unthink and adjust to the needs of the group.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Life Skills Coaching second module days 2-6
I didn't do so well to update every day, so here are the last few days of the course.
Day 2
The air conditioning is on! It’s weak but better than the sweltering heat yesterday. We’re off to a good start today. We are each tasked to come up with warm up exercises to start the mornings and afternoons.
This is good practice in devising and running an exercise. We’ll also get feedback on what went well. “Appreciative inquiry”.
Feedback is good. I think it is hard to accept sometimes, but if I can remember that what we’re focusing on is the good stuff, so what went well, it should be easier than worrying about what went bad. Or the better way to put it – what could I have done better.
Learning to appreciate feedback is something I’m not always sure I’m ready for. Oh don’t get me wrong, I love compliments and hearing good things about myself. It’s taking that good feedback and using that to motivate myself to do better. I’m sure I’m like others in that it’s embarrassing to hear someone compliment you at times.
So the real lesson I take away from this is to genuinely thank the person for the good feedback and take that as proof that I’m doing something good.
We also tackled active listening this morning. Something that I keep seeing in every course I’ve done in the last month. It is such a powerful tool in a coaching or teach role. Simply hearing isn’t enough; keeping the group engaged is important as a speaker, but I’ve also got to ensure that I listen to the group needs from what they say in their feedback. It can help to redirect the group, clarify or to help create a new lesson.
Active listening is giving back to the speaker. Showing that I care about what they are saying. I can see that this can be ‘work’ to some as the topic may not be interesting or I’m just plain tired. So keeping focused can be a challenge, but to the listener it’s so important that they feel heard.
I’ve actually listened to someone as they had wanted to ask my opinion on something or advice, but after they got out what they needed to, they seemed to answer it themselves. I now see that my active listening and some probing questions, helped them reach what they were looking for. I still gave them the credit for it. And this seems to happen to me regularly.
Does that make me a good listener? Or a really good actor? Hmm. They may never know…
So I’m journaling the next morning about the afternoon as I got all excited about the third season opener of Mad Men; in HD no less. So you understand, right?
We started the afternoon with a warm up by Silvia. She had us each read a quote from a list and tell the group what our feeling was. The quotes were great; they were positive and inspiring. It re-energized the team for the afternoon. I have noticed, and the instructor mentioned it as well, that Silvia has really gained some confidence in participating in the class. It’s not that she doesn’t speak, she does. But in this module, as compared to last module, I noticed her stand out sooner. I think in module one, I only got to really ‘see’ her when we were working on our team assignment.
The group then went through a review of the theory from module one on building a lesson plan. It all came back pretty quick. The group seems to be right on the ball with this stuff. I do admit that I reviewed all the material in the car a Saturday as we drove to the family party in Niagara in the Lake.
The practice to build the lesson plans was a little scary. I mean, I’ve developed lots of different training material over the years, but I’ve determined what I’m really learning is how to develop life skills type training.
I started on this journey looking to backfill my technical group facilitation skills. Which are still being sharpened as we go along. I think that my ah-ha came as I realized that I can build some good life skills lessons into other courses that I teach.
The practice lesson was tough in coming up with goals, but the trick was to not get too complicated. It seems keeping it simple is the best way. Remember the lesson breaking things down. It’s not hard to fill a 2 hour session. And now I’m thinking of what topic I’ll use for my assignment – but now I need to narrow it down to something fairly simple.
Day 3
Today the class started with a group discussion on the lack of class dynamic. Again we need to reenergize the team, open up the disclosure floodgates, participate like crazy, and so on.
My personal challenge is staying in the here and now. I’ve trained to use past experiences to guide others on making choices. Using what I know and have done to advise on the future for others. Not so here and now, is it?
So my ‘ah-ha’ moment yesterday about how I’m going to take away the learnings of the class to better my life skills focus, comes in to play. I’m trying to be much more aware to stay in the here and now, be relevant to the conversations at hand, and to increase the quality of what I’m saying rather than quantity. I’m good at talking, adding humour, but I need to keep it in line with the group needs. Not just add to the talking but add to the content and experience the class.
Creativity was the lesson of the morning. How we use out creativity and in what areas of our lives is fascinating. Often I would think of creativity in art or drawing, or maybe even in my theatre work. But I can now see how it works in problem solving, either for myself or in a group setting. Thinking outside of the box is an overused phrase in work settings, so maybe I’ll start asking people to put their creative hats on when they need to work something out.
I am challenged by brainstorming. Why? I think I’m always trying to problem solve – jump to the end. When brainstorming with others, I let someone else start the ball rolling and then I jump in with ideas. Still, I seem to want to self-edit as others in the class do. I worry my idea sounds dumb or that people won’t like the idea at all.
The ground rules to brainstorming help. No criticizing is great. No idea needs explaining to justify it. The group can edit the items on the list later. Just pour out the ideas; let the creative juices flow. Team brainstorming is easier for me. They are a trusty resource of ideas.
Brainstorming alone is worse. I am my own worst critic and again try to jump to the end goal. The exercises to just list ideas out is good. No end goal; just pump out the ideas.
The group is much more energized this afternoon. There is more discussion which leads to great sharing. I am most energized when the group opens up and shares. This is some real learning. We’re also more focused and in the moment on the topic at hand.
Sometimes the group needs a little prodding to get working together. I don’t feel I’m one of 2 or 3 people answering first all the time. But don’t get me wrong, I do jump in and go first from time to time. Just let someone try to beat me!
Day 4
Revisiting yesterday’s topics, we discuss if we’re back on track and energized to go forth. We did a self evaluation at the end of the day yesterday. From the responses how we feel we’re participating, the range is from 2 to 10. And no, I did not put 10 on mine, so someone else thinks they’re participating even more! Great.
Someone brought up that they felt they were holding themselves back from participating as to give others a chance to jump in with their thoughts. This is so OD (other determined) and I do it too. I propose a competition over who starts first. I guess that’s a little too SD (self determined).
Our topic this morning is on problem solving. The emphasis is not on solving, as I would normally do. I’m told I’m a solver; I like to help fix it or make it work. Sometimes that’s not what’s wanted or needed. My other half likes to talk things out and wants me to just listen. It’s about process not solutions. I tend to jump to solve.
Consulting has taught me that as an expert I need to come with ideas already in hand to fix the problem. Again, this not always the need. What I seem to jump over or make assumptions on is defining the problem.
In our exercise today, we assumed the problem and then jumped to solve it. We then backtracked to justify our solution and to employ more lateral thinking. After the fact of course. Once we regroup and discuss, it becomes evident that we didn’t take the time to explore the problem. We as a team needed to work the problem over to ensure we understand what we’re trying to work on.
We still solved the problem, but there was a great option we totally missed as we didn’t see the problem from another perspective. Funny how I now think back to my IT days and how I used to be the one to propose looking at all the perspectives before tackling a particular solution approach. Maybe I need to listen to myself more often.
Problem solving was the theme for the day. We worked on the 6 WHs (who, what, etc.) and how to keep on with lateral thinking. We talked about how vertical thinking is like digging the same hole deeper where lateral thinking is starting a new hole.
We worked on puzzles and I found it fairly frustrating. It was fun; the group had a great time. Exploring digging deeper with questions was a great way to try and work around breaking barriers. Uh ha! Everything is coming together from the past few days. Don’t you just hate when learning sneaks up on you like that?
The group has also risen to the challenge and has engaged in richer conversation, more disclosure, and much better energy. The sharing is good. Not everyone is up to the level of the whole group, but most are trying to be more involved.
My big learning of the day is that I need to challenge my set assumptions when tackling a problem. My tendency to jump to the solution can hinder the options I might come up with. Understanding the true problem and questioning to break the assumptions is important.
Day 5
We roll into decision making by consensus. First thing I learn is that what I thought was consensus was not. It’s a true group decision making process. And everybody involved needs to know how to play the game.
Seems many of us have experienced meetings that were in the guise of consensus. But usually they had some people that were out to promote their own agendas. The main goal is to achieve win-win for the group.
It’s not about me getting what I want, but giving the group what it wants. Or can accept. So I don’t inflict my wants on others, I get involved and promote a balanced approach. I may have some definite things that I believe in and cannot live with. But many times, even if the option presented is not my favourite, so long as I can ‘live with it’ it is consensus.
This doesn’t mean that I give in to what others want all the time. If I have a strong belief, I can make myself heard by the group and as a group it’s considered, analyzed, until the group decides (and I as part of that group) that we agree on the final choice.
This was a very hard topic and exercise for the group to digest. I think I’m still digesting and wondering how I could ever apply this to a group setting outside this class. At least here, I have people who try to stay in the balanced self determined frame of mind. Out there, my mind fills with past experiences of people inflicting their agendas on me and others.
Perhaps what I need is how to defuse a situation that could benefit from a true consensus process and put it back on track to a win-win.
Continuing in the afternoon with more problem solving, we get into the 6 step process. This is much easier to work with than consensus. Perhaps because on the wheel to working the problem, we have a feedback loop.
Everything we’ve learned and experienced this week is all coming together now. All the tools and techniques that we’ve practiced are coming into play. We’re crossing the hump over from being students to being coaches. We’ve worked on the angles and practiced all the things we need to be effective coaches.
I think we have some of our richest discussions this afternoon. We actually practice solving real problems with a couple of examples from people in the room. Real problems meaning they are actually looking for some help in making a decision or coming up with a plan.
As we had realized the other day, the best way to start is to identify there is a problem and then to define what it is. From there we can brainstorm some ideas which will leads towards being able to make a decision. Along the way, we can review if we’re still on the right track. We could even go back to determine we don’t even have a real problem.
The feedback loop lets us review the past step or steps to ensure we’re ready to move forward or if other problems may have surfaced.
We finish off the day talking about emotions and how they can play out in a group. As coaches we need to remember we’re not counselors, so getting caught up in someone’s emotional issue is not the focus for the coach. Obviously, we can ask if the person needs something and we can help that, but we don’t need to focus on them. The group is the focus and the team can help with the issue or move on if it’s not hindering.
Today was long and tiring, but I’ve come to the place where I think that I have what I need to make the jump into the role of a life skills coach. Remember this wasn’t my original focus, so I’ve come around to seeing how I can apply all that I’ve done in the past week.
Day 6
And the end is near; a day early even! Today is when it should all come together. Our last lesson is about bridging and connecting. This is connecting people in the group during discussions. We apparently are a good class in that we are connecting on our own and don’t need as much help. But in our practice role plays, we are reminded not to be too good! We’re role playing a coach, but the rest are being group members – members who are not coaches though.
This is tougher than I thought. Trying not to help the practice coach or automatically using something out of our coaches’ tool bag is hard and requires some very conscious effort.
The practice was fun; both as when doing the coach role and playing member. It was a good exercise to practice giving positive feedback. I saw lots of things that I would have normally given constructive feedback, but that wasn’t what we were working on. Giving only good feedback is empowering to the person.
When I did my practice, I was fairly sure I was doing some good stuff and I tried to ensure that I was using all the tools we learned this week. Listening to all the great feedback made me feel even more sure of myself. I do wish I knew if there was something I could do better, but I felt really good about how the group worked through the exercise with me.
Each person brought a quote or picture for the group as the stimulus and then worked through the feelings and the evocation. The quotes were good and one of the pictures was so good it dumbfounded the group. The discussions were good too.
The group closure brought us all to the place where we could see how we got to this place. I now feel that I have more confidence to use the techniques and tools from this week. Feels good. Of course, I still need to do the lesson plan assignment.
Day 2
The air conditioning is on! It’s weak but better than the sweltering heat yesterday. We’re off to a good start today. We are each tasked to come up with warm up exercises to start the mornings and afternoons.
This is good practice in devising and running an exercise. We’ll also get feedback on what went well. “Appreciative inquiry”.
Feedback is good. I think it is hard to accept sometimes, but if I can remember that what we’re focusing on is the good stuff, so what went well, it should be easier than worrying about what went bad. Or the better way to put it – what could I have done better.
Learning to appreciate feedback is something I’m not always sure I’m ready for. Oh don’t get me wrong, I love compliments and hearing good things about myself. It’s taking that good feedback and using that to motivate myself to do better. I’m sure I’m like others in that it’s embarrassing to hear someone compliment you at times.
So the real lesson I take away from this is to genuinely thank the person for the good feedback and take that as proof that I’m doing something good.
We also tackled active listening this morning. Something that I keep seeing in every course I’ve done in the last month. It is such a powerful tool in a coaching or teach role. Simply hearing isn’t enough; keeping the group engaged is important as a speaker, but I’ve also got to ensure that I listen to the group needs from what they say in their feedback. It can help to redirect the group, clarify or to help create a new lesson.
Active listening is giving back to the speaker. Showing that I care about what they are saying. I can see that this can be ‘work’ to some as the topic may not be interesting or I’m just plain tired. So keeping focused can be a challenge, but to the listener it’s so important that they feel heard.
I’ve actually listened to someone as they had wanted to ask my opinion on something or advice, but after they got out what they needed to, they seemed to answer it themselves. I now see that my active listening and some probing questions, helped them reach what they were looking for. I still gave them the credit for it. And this seems to happen to me regularly.
Does that make me a good listener? Or a really good actor? Hmm. They may never know…
So I’m journaling the next morning about the afternoon as I got all excited about the third season opener of Mad Men; in HD no less. So you understand, right?
We started the afternoon with a warm up by Silvia. She had us each read a quote from a list and tell the group what our feeling was. The quotes were great; they were positive and inspiring. It re-energized the team for the afternoon. I have noticed, and the instructor mentioned it as well, that Silvia has really gained some confidence in participating in the class. It’s not that she doesn’t speak, she does. But in this module, as compared to last module, I noticed her stand out sooner. I think in module one, I only got to really ‘see’ her when we were working on our team assignment.
The group then went through a review of the theory from module one on building a lesson plan. It all came back pretty quick. The group seems to be right on the ball with this stuff. I do admit that I reviewed all the material in the car a Saturday as we drove to the family party in Niagara in the Lake.
The practice to build the lesson plans was a little scary. I mean, I’ve developed lots of different training material over the years, but I’ve determined what I’m really learning is how to develop life skills type training.
I started on this journey looking to backfill my technical group facilitation skills. Which are still being sharpened as we go along. I think that my ah-ha came as I realized that I can build some good life skills lessons into other courses that I teach.
The practice lesson was tough in coming up with goals, but the trick was to not get too complicated. It seems keeping it simple is the best way. Remember the lesson breaking things down. It’s not hard to fill a 2 hour session. And now I’m thinking of what topic I’ll use for my assignment – but now I need to narrow it down to something fairly simple.
Day 3
Today the class started with a group discussion on the lack of class dynamic. Again we need to reenergize the team, open up the disclosure floodgates, participate like crazy, and so on.
My personal challenge is staying in the here and now. I’ve trained to use past experiences to guide others on making choices. Using what I know and have done to advise on the future for others. Not so here and now, is it?
So my ‘ah-ha’ moment yesterday about how I’m going to take away the learnings of the class to better my life skills focus, comes in to play. I’m trying to be much more aware to stay in the here and now, be relevant to the conversations at hand, and to increase the quality of what I’m saying rather than quantity. I’m good at talking, adding humour, but I need to keep it in line with the group needs. Not just add to the talking but add to the content and experience the class.
Creativity was the lesson of the morning. How we use out creativity and in what areas of our lives is fascinating. Often I would think of creativity in art or drawing, or maybe even in my theatre work. But I can now see how it works in problem solving, either for myself or in a group setting. Thinking outside of the box is an overused phrase in work settings, so maybe I’ll start asking people to put their creative hats on when they need to work something out.
I am challenged by brainstorming. Why? I think I’m always trying to problem solve – jump to the end. When brainstorming with others, I let someone else start the ball rolling and then I jump in with ideas. Still, I seem to want to self-edit as others in the class do. I worry my idea sounds dumb or that people won’t like the idea at all.
The ground rules to brainstorming help. No criticizing is great. No idea needs explaining to justify it. The group can edit the items on the list later. Just pour out the ideas; let the creative juices flow. Team brainstorming is easier for me. They are a trusty resource of ideas.
Brainstorming alone is worse. I am my own worst critic and again try to jump to the end goal. The exercises to just list ideas out is good. No end goal; just pump out the ideas.
The group is much more energized this afternoon. There is more discussion which leads to great sharing. I am most energized when the group opens up and shares. This is some real learning. We’re also more focused and in the moment on the topic at hand.
Sometimes the group needs a little prodding to get working together. I don’t feel I’m one of 2 or 3 people answering first all the time. But don’t get me wrong, I do jump in and go first from time to time. Just let someone try to beat me!
Day 4
Revisiting yesterday’s topics, we discuss if we’re back on track and energized to go forth. We did a self evaluation at the end of the day yesterday. From the responses how we feel we’re participating, the range is from 2 to 10. And no, I did not put 10 on mine, so someone else thinks they’re participating even more! Great.
Someone brought up that they felt they were holding themselves back from participating as to give others a chance to jump in with their thoughts. This is so OD (other determined) and I do it too. I propose a competition over who starts first. I guess that’s a little too SD (self determined).
Our topic this morning is on problem solving. The emphasis is not on solving, as I would normally do. I’m told I’m a solver; I like to help fix it or make it work. Sometimes that’s not what’s wanted or needed. My other half likes to talk things out and wants me to just listen. It’s about process not solutions. I tend to jump to solve.
Consulting has taught me that as an expert I need to come with ideas already in hand to fix the problem. Again, this not always the need. What I seem to jump over or make assumptions on is defining the problem.
In our exercise today, we assumed the problem and then jumped to solve it. We then backtracked to justify our solution and to employ more lateral thinking. After the fact of course. Once we regroup and discuss, it becomes evident that we didn’t take the time to explore the problem. We as a team needed to work the problem over to ensure we understand what we’re trying to work on.
We still solved the problem, but there was a great option we totally missed as we didn’t see the problem from another perspective. Funny how I now think back to my IT days and how I used to be the one to propose looking at all the perspectives before tackling a particular solution approach. Maybe I need to listen to myself more often.
Problem solving was the theme for the day. We worked on the 6 WHs (who, what, etc.) and how to keep on with lateral thinking. We talked about how vertical thinking is like digging the same hole deeper where lateral thinking is starting a new hole.
We worked on puzzles and I found it fairly frustrating. It was fun; the group had a great time. Exploring digging deeper with questions was a great way to try and work around breaking barriers. Uh ha! Everything is coming together from the past few days. Don’t you just hate when learning sneaks up on you like that?
The group has also risen to the challenge and has engaged in richer conversation, more disclosure, and much better energy. The sharing is good. Not everyone is up to the level of the whole group, but most are trying to be more involved.
My big learning of the day is that I need to challenge my set assumptions when tackling a problem. My tendency to jump to the solution can hinder the options I might come up with. Understanding the true problem and questioning to break the assumptions is important.
Day 5
We roll into decision making by consensus. First thing I learn is that what I thought was consensus was not. It’s a true group decision making process. And everybody involved needs to know how to play the game.
Seems many of us have experienced meetings that were in the guise of consensus. But usually they had some people that were out to promote their own agendas. The main goal is to achieve win-win for the group.
It’s not about me getting what I want, but giving the group what it wants. Or can accept. So I don’t inflict my wants on others, I get involved and promote a balanced approach. I may have some definite things that I believe in and cannot live with. But many times, even if the option presented is not my favourite, so long as I can ‘live with it’ it is consensus.
This doesn’t mean that I give in to what others want all the time. If I have a strong belief, I can make myself heard by the group and as a group it’s considered, analyzed, until the group decides (and I as part of that group) that we agree on the final choice.
This was a very hard topic and exercise for the group to digest. I think I’m still digesting and wondering how I could ever apply this to a group setting outside this class. At least here, I have people who try to stay in the balanced self determined frame of mind. Out there, my mind fills with past experiences of people inflicting their agendas on me and others.
Perhaps what I need is how to defuse a situation that could benefit from a true consensus process and put it back on track to a win-win.
Continuing in the afternoon with more problem solving, we get into the 6 step process. This is much easier to work with than consensus. Perhaps because on the wheel to working the problem, we have a feedback loop.
Everything we’ve learned and experienced this week is all coming together now. All the tools and techniques that we’ve practiced are coming into play. We’re crossing the hump over from being students to being coaches. We’ve worked on the angles and practiced all the things we need to be effective coaches.
I think we have some of our richest discussions this afternoon. We actually practice solving real problems with a couple of examples from people in the room. Real problems meaning they are actually looking for some help in making a decision or coming up with a plan.
As we had realized the other day, the best way to start is to identify there is a problem and then to define what it is. From there we can brainstorm some ideas which will leads towards being able to make a decision. Along the way, we can review if we’re still on the right track. We could even go back to determine we don’t even have a real problem.
The feedback loop lets us review the past step or steps to ensure we’re ready to move forward or if other problems may have surfaced.
We finish off the day talking about emotions and how they can play out in a group. As coaches we need to remember we’re not counselors, so getting caught up in someone’s emotional issue is not the focus for the coach. Obviously, we can ask if the person needs something and we can help that, but we don’t need to focus on them. The group is the focus and the team can help with the issue or move on if it’s not hindering.
Today was long and tiring, but I’ve come to the place where I think that I have what I need to make the jump into the role of a life skills coach. Remember this wasn’t my original focus, so I’ve come around to seeing how I can apply all that I’ve done in the past week.
Day 6
And the end is near; a day early even! Today is when it should all come together. Our last lesson is about bridging and connecting. This is connecting people in the group during discussions. We apparently are a good class in that we are connecting on our own and don’t need as much help. But in our practice role plays, we are reminded not to be too good! We’re role playing a coach, but the rest are being group members – members who are not coaches though.
This is tougher than I thought. Trying not to help the practice coach or automatically using something out of our coaches’ tool bag is hard and requires some very conscious effort.
The practice was fun; both as when doing the coach role and playing member. It was a good exercise to practice giving positive feedback. I saw lots of things that I would have normally given constructive feedback, but that wasn’t what we were working on. Giving only good feedback is empowering to the person.
When I did my practice, I was fairly sure I was doing some good stuff and I tried to ensure that I was using all the tools we learned this week. Listening to all the great feedback made me feel even more sure of myself. I do wish I knew if there was something I could do better, but I felt really good about how the group worked through the exercise with me.
Each person brought a quote or picture for the group as the stimulus and then worked through the feelings and the evocation. The quotes were good and one of the pictures was so good it dumbfounded the group. The discussions were good too.
The group closure brought us all to the place where we could see how we got to this place. I now feel that I have more confidence to use the techniques and tools from this week. Feels good. Of course, I still need to do the lesson plan assignment.
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Life Skills Coaching second module
I started the second module of the George Brown certificate program. It's another intense week so I've decided to again blog each day. I of course have to journal each day anyway, so this just adds to the blog. Enjoy.
Day 1
Back in the hot seat. Literally. Starting classes on a Sunday in what is now the hot summer days produced a very hot classroom due to the air conditioning not be on. If it were the first class I ever took here or if I didn’t know anyone in it, the nervousness would have been much higher and thus would have made me sweatier. But not likely much more.
It was great to see some of the previous session’s people back for more. This made it easier to slip back in to building the relationships. Although 2 months have passed, it seems that it was much shorter.
We had a few new people in the class too and they seemed to me to fit in quite well.
It helped that we spent the day getting to know each other. Either introducing ourselves or reacquainting with those we knew before. It took days in the first class for us get comfortable and trust one another. I think that we’ll adjust to each other quickly and be able to have good sharing going on in no time.
We talked a bit about what we learned or brought from the first class. I had an experience yesterday where I realized some very Other Determined behavior in going to a family event. We discussed why were going and what was expected by others. It was pretty clear that we were going to keep the family happy even though it wasn’t the most convenient for us to go. But now that we did go, we can feel good about keeping everyone happy and that next time, we can decide what we want out of it as well.
Others talked about being able to trust better, openly sharing, trusting their feelings, etc. I even think the newbies to our little group will openly share as well. It’s a small group so we’re getting to know all each other better already.
We left with our feelings on how the rest of the week will go. I said excited, but I feel energized. Although drenched in sweat after walking back up to the car, I got home and headed to the gym for a workout. I was really drenched after that, but took all that energy and put it to good use. Now I’m tired and hungry.
Day 1
Back in the hot seat. Literally. Starting classes on a Sunday in what is now the hot summer days produced a very hot classroom due to the air conditioning not be on. If it were the first class I ever took here or if I didn’t know anyone in it, the nervousness would have been much higher and thus would have made me sweatier. But not likely much more.
It was great to see some of the previous session’s people back for more. This made it easier to slip back in to building the relationships. Although 2 months have passed, it seems that it was much shorter.
We had a few new people in the class too and they seemed to me to fit in quite well.
It helped that we spent the day getting to know each other. Either introducing ourselves or reacquainting with those we knew before. It took days in the first class for us get comfortable and trust one another. I think that we’ll adjust to each other quickly and be able to have good sharing going on in no time.
We talked a bit about what we learned or brought from the first class. I had an experience yesterday where I realized some very Other Determined behavior in going to a family event. We discussed why were going and what was expected by others. It was pretty clear that we were going to keep the family happy even though it wasn’t the most convenient for us to go. But now that we did go, we can feel good about keeping everyone happy and that next time, we can decide what we want out of it as well.
Others talked about being able to trust better, openly sharing, trusting their feelings, etc. I even think the newbies to our little group will openly share as well. It’s a small group so we’re getting to know all each other better already.
We left with our feelings on how the rest of the week will go. I said excited, but I feel energized. Although drenched in sweat after walking back up to the car, I got home and headed to the gym for a workout. I was really drenched after that, but took all that energy and put it to good use. Now I’m tired and hungry.
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Nutrition certification
So last weekend I did a 3 day course on nutrition and wellness. It was a course delivered by CAN-FIT-PRO and held at Ryerson University.
I had been planning to take this course since last year. I originally was looking for a general course to learn more about nutrition. I wasn't looking to be an 'expert' in nutrition or to get certified. But as it turned out, the CAN-FIT-PRO course was one that was available and reasonably priced.
I couldn't find the time last year to take the course given working and doing theatre. So this year, faced without a full time job or as much theatre involvement, I thought this was a good time to take some education. You'll see from past postings that I took a coaching course at George Brown as well.
So I looked back into this nutrition course earlier this year. I tried to get into the March session, but it was full and ended up in the July session.
I'm still not sure I want to get my certification. I mean I don't envision a career change into being a nutritionist or anything, but I do like to know that I have the self-confidence (and maybe a certificate) to talk amongst friends with a little authority.
The course was well attended. It had the requisite number of gym fitness trainers and few general interest participants.
The course tends to be more aimed at helping the gym folks pass the exam. It's not really about learning nutrition and wellness so much. We do go over the basics and from discussions I do pick up a few things.
But generally, I seemed to have most of this all covered. No big revelations on the nutrition side. Read Nutrition Action and Men's Health and you too will know most everything about nutrition.
I'm glad to know that I have a good grasp on this and that when I talk to others about this stuff, I'm not just making it up.
I just wish that with this knowledge came the ability to eat better and trim my waistline. I've eaten well for years, but still I haven't found a way to lower the amount of fat in body. And yes, I do go the gym and exercise. I think keeping cheat meals down to a minimum and having smaller portions may be the way to go.
But back to the course. Over the 3 days, I kept trying to determine if I should go for the certification. To get it, I would need to write an exam and update my CPR. Both cost a little more money. Now the course I'm in has prepared me to write the exam; I only need to book the exam and write it. There is a test and practical case exam too.
So I'm now trying to figure out if I really want and/or need to get the certification. It would serve to complete this little endeavour. I could tell friends to shut it when they start believing the fad diet stories. And I would feel a certain level of accomplishment. Ah, the accomplishment.
So I will likely go ahead and book the exam. Just another thing to put on my resume.
I had been planning to take this course since last year. I originally was looking for a general course to learn more about nutrition. I wasn't looking to be an 'expert' in nutrition or to get certified. But as it turned out, the CAN-FIT-PRO course was one that was available and reasonably priced.
I couldn't find the time last year to take the course given working and doing theatre. So this year, faced without a full time job or as much theatre involvement, I thought this was a good time to take some education. You'll see from past postings that I took a coaching course at George Brown as well.
So I looked back into this nutrition course earlier this year. I tried to get into the March session, but it was full and ended up in the July session.
I'm still not sure I want to get my certification. I mean I don't envision a career change into being a nutritionist or anything, but I do like to know that I have the self-confidence (and maybe a certificate) to talk amongst friends with a little authority.
The course was well attended. It had the requisite number of gym fitness trainers and few general interest participants.
The course tends to be more aimed at helping the gym folks pass the exam. It's not really about learning nutrition and wellness so much. We do go over the basics and from discussions I do pick up a few things.
But generally, I seemed to have most of this all covered. No big revelations on the nutrition side. Read Nutrition Action and Men's Health and you too will know most everything about nutrition.
I'm glad to know that I have a good grasp on this and that when I talk to others about this stuff, I'm not just making it up.
I just wish that with this knowledge came the ability to eat better and trim my waistline. I've eaten well for years, but still I haven't found a way to lower the amount of fat in body. And yes, I do go the gym and exercise. I think keeping cheat meals down to a minimum and having smaller portions may be the way to go.
But back to the course. Over the 3 days, I kept trying to determine if I should go for the certification. To get it, I would need to write an exam and update my CPR. Both cost a little more money. Now the course I'm in has prepared me to write the exam; I only need to book the exam and write it. There is a test and practical case exam too.
So I'm now trying to figure out if I really want and/or need to get the certification. It would serve to complete this little endeavour. I could tell friends to shut it when they start believing the fad diet stories. And I would feel a certain level of accomplishment. Ah, the accomplishment.
So I will likely go ahead and book the exam. Just another thing to put on my resume.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Balance
Do you have balance in your life? And by life I mean work and other endeavours during the day. Although it may seem that work takes up most of your productive time.
How many times have you gotten up at the crack of dawn, worked all day, actually late, then come home and just do not have the energy for anything. Not too productive on the personal side, is it?
We work to live, not live to work, or work for the weekends. Our jobs often define us, but is it the real you? Put your all into your job, don't get me wrong, I'm not going to promote working less or not as hard. Do your job to the best of your abilities.
But, find time to pursue happiness. In whatever form that takes.
For those us that are unemployed/searching for work or under-employed, it seems that I still have a full day of 'work' and feel tired at the end of the day. Why is that? Poor health or diet maybe?
Maybe. I haven't been hitting the gym as much lately as I usually do. Now does working out at the gym make me happy? Well, not 'happy' but happier that I'm on a path to bettering my health. I'm often asked if I love working out. No. But that achy feeling or tightness that reminds me that I have been working out, is nice.
First time I was laid off, I got in pretty good shape. I had a great routine for the work week: I hit the gym in the morning, planned a lunch date to continue networking, spent the afternoon job searching and reconnecting, and at night I pursued my real hobby, working in community theatre.
I find mindless working out good, but not really productive. I would go to the gym and do 30-45 minutes of either cardio or weights, but I never seemed to progress. And I certainly wasn't looking any better.
So, I had to get serious about working out. Start tracking my workouts and my eating. I currently have a Blackberry and use it as my MP3 player while working out (I can also check on work emails at the same time). So I needed something to build and track my workouts with. I finally landed on a great (Canadian built) site called GymTechnik. You can use it on your computer or on your mobile device. They have made some great updates and I find it very good.
So by putting some effort into planning workouts, I could start to see the changes and feel them. But one cannot stay in the gym all day. Got to put some time into the job search.
I would often found that if I tried to meet more than one person a day, such as have a lunch and a coffee in one day, I was overloaded! It's amazing how busy you can be when job searching. How do we ever manage full-time jobs, family, friends and fun?
Balance. It takes conscious effort to maintain it. And it's just not balancing the time, but the feel of what your body and mind need. Listen to your body - it knows what it needs. You'll feel better, really.
How many times have you gotten up at the crack of dawn, worked all day, actually late, then come home and just do not have the energy for anything. Not too productive on the personal side, is it?
We work to live, not live to work, or work for the weekends. Our jobs often define us, but is it the real you? Put your all into your job, don't get me wrong, I'm not going to promote working less or not as hard. Do your job to the best of your abilities.
But, find time to pursue happiness. In whatever form that takes.
For those us that are unemployed/searching for work or under-employed, it seems that I still have a full day of 'work' and feel tired at the end of the day. Why is that? Poor health or diet maybe?
Maybe. I haven't been hitting the gym as much lately as I usually do. Now does working out at the gym make me happy? Well, not 'happy' but happier that I'm on a path to bettering my health. I'm often asked if I love working out. No. But that achy feeling or tightness that reminds me that I have been working out, is nice.
First time I was laid off, I got in pretty good shape. I had a great routine for the work week: I hit the gym in the morning, planned a lunch date to continue networking, spent the afternoon job searching and reconnecting, and at night I pursued my real hobby, working in community theatre.
I find mindless working out good, but not really productive. I would go to the gym and do 30-45 minutes of either cardio or weights, but I never seemed to progress. And I certainly wasn't looking any better.
So, I had to get serious about working out. Start tracking my workouts and my eating. I currently have a Blackberry and use it as my MP3 player while working out (I can also check on work emails at the same time). So I needed something to build and track my workouts with. I finally landed on a great (Canadian built) site called GymTechnik. You can use it on your computer or on your mobile device. They have made some great updates and I find it very good.
So by putting some effort into planning workouts, I could start to see the changes and feel them. But one cannot stay in the gym all day. Got to put some time into the job search.
I would often found that if I tried to meet more than one person a day, such as have a lunch and a coffee in one day, I was overloaded! It's amazing how busy you can be when job searching. How do we ever manage full-time jobs, family, friends and fun?
Balance. It takes conscious effort to maintain it. And it's just not balancing the time, but the feel of what your body and mind need. Listen to your body - it knows what it needs. You'll feel better, really.
Friday, June 19, 2009
Day 6
Morning
The end is near. This is the final day of class as the exam is all we have tomorrow. There is a different air to the room today. It could be that 2 of the ‘screamers’ aren’t here yet. But the group has now learned to compensate for the lack of others participating. But it’s still a little lower volume.
All that we’ve learned comes to this: how to help or hinder a group. I guess it was good that we had some issues during the week on how to form the group. As we disclosed more, the level of interaction increased. Certainly I felt more comfortable in participating when I thought it was out of contributing and not covering for others not talking.
The group experiences have been good this week for me. I’ve felt like I’ve balanced more between participating and observing. I’m not really as talkative as some would think from. I’m actually an introvert when it comes to behavioural assessments like Myers Briggs.
We discuss how bad group behaviours can be transformed into helpful behaviours. I know that as I look at the Shostrum’s wheel that I identify with the inner (bad) behaviours first; either in myself or others I observe in groups. But I think I’m just labeling the bahaviour incorrectly.
In a group, I sometimes think I’m being too bossy or trying to take over the direction of the group; when really, I only do this when the group seems unfocused on the goals. I consciously now take a backseat to see if a group can self-direct, and then step in when I feel I want to. I think that now I know how to try and balance the participation with observation, I can better serve at group or team.
I’m not bossy, just leading.
Afternoon
The end is here! We begin the process of closure. There are certainly a few emotions flowing. I’m glad we’ve reached the end of journey. I learned a few things along the way. And it will be somewhat sad that I won’t be spending more time with this group of people.
I now see that when a group or team is disbanding or finishing a project that everyone may be feeling something different. Some may be glad it’s over, others sad, and even others may avoid it entirely.
I will also ensure that I give ample opportunities for unfinished business. I liked the idea that a reminder half way through lets members of the group know where they are in the task process. This is a good practice whether the group is meeting for weeks or hours.
I have experienced that many times after a group has disbanded, someone mentions that they had leftover business. Or they just offer an opinion about how they wish it had gone. If the group is well balanced in its behaviours, then the members have many chances to offer opinions, suggestions or influence to help shape or refocus the group.
So hopefully, as long as the team members are participating fully, then when the team comes to closure, they can do it cleanly. This is what we as a group in the class go through. I have mixed emotions, but mainly feel that the week had helped me grow as a person and a coach.
I came in to the class almost a week ago and I was not sure what I would learn or how I might integrate it into what I do. I now see that I can use this in many aspects of my life; it’s not just for improving my coaching in my consulting work, but in personal relationships, in my theatre teams, and at home.
It’s been a good week.
The end is near. This is the final day of class as the exam is all we have tomorrow. There is a different air to the room today. It could be that 2 of the ‘screamers’ aren’t here yet. But the group has now learned to compensate for the lack of others participating. But it’s still a little lower volume.
All that we’ve learned comes to this: how to help or hinder a group. I guess it was good that we had some issues during the week on how to form the group. As we disclosed more, the level of interaction increased. Certainly I felt more comfortable in participating when I thought it was out of contributing and not covering for others not talking.
The group experiences have been good this week for me. I’ve felt like I’ve balanced more between participating and observing. I’m not really as talkative as some would think from. I’m actually an introvert when it comes to behavioural assessments like Myers Briggs.
We discuss how bad group behaviours can be transformed into helpful behaviours. I know that as I look at the Shostrum’s wheel that I identify with the inner (bad) behaviours first; either in myself or others I observe in groups. But I think I’m just labeling the bahaviour incorrectly.
In a group, I sometimes think I’m being too bossy or trying to take over the direction of the group; when really, I only do this when the group seems unfocused on the goals. I consciously now take a backseat to see if a group can self-direct, and then step in when I feel I want to. I think that now I know how to try and balance the participation with observation, I can better serve at group or team.
I’m not bossy, just leading.
Afternoon
The end is here! We begin the process of closure. There are certainly a few emotions flowing. I’m glad we’ve reached the end of journey. I learned a few things along the way. And it will be somewhat sad that I won’t be spending more time with this group of people.
I now see that when a group or team is disbanding or finishing a project that everyone may be feeling something different. Some may be glad it’s over, others sad, and even others may avoid it entirely.
I will also ensure that I give ample opportunities for unfinished business. I liked the idea that a reminder half way through lets members of the group know where they are in the task process. This is a good practice whether the group is meeting for weeks or hours.
I have experienced that many times after a group has disbanded, someone mentions that they had leftover business. Or they just offer an opinion about how they wish it had gone. If the group is well balanced in its behaviours, then the members have many chances to offer opinions, suggestions or influence to help shape or refocus the group.
So hopefully, as long as the team members are participating fully, then when the team comes to closure, they can do it cleanly. This is what we as a group in the class go through. I have mixed emotions, but mainly feel that the week had helped me grow as a person and a coach.
I came in to the class almost a week ago and I was not sure what I would learn or how I might integrate it into what I do. I now see that I can use this in many aspects of my life; it’s not just for improving my coaching in my consulting work, but in personal relationships, in my theatre teams, and at home.
It’s been a good week.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Day 5
Morning
What really makes you happy? The warm up was to pick a page in a book of 14,000 things that make you happy. From 2 pages of options, it wasn’t easy for me and some others to find something that makes them happy. Are we that unhappy a people?
We jump into test anxiety. Flashbacks to school ensue. Feeling of dread washes over me as I recall exams and tests. School was never somewhere I was comfortable. Luckily I seemed to always do well.
Thinking about writing this exam recalls other techniques used prior in my life. Study till you have it memorized seems to be the one that worked well. But the retention was low or nil. I do the same today to learn lines for a play. Memorize and once you’ve used it, purge it from your memory – there’s something better to fill that space.
The presentations yesterday stick in my brain for certain things. The breakdown of information into smaller digestible bits is helpful. The acronyms and remembering the number of items helps to make sure I can regurgitate the information.
But to make this class really worthwhile, I need to practice what I’ve learned. Then maybe it’ll settle in my brain. It’s like muscle-memory when working out. Once you’ve trained yourself to do it a number of times, it becomes more automatic. It will spontaneously, or better yet, organically come out.
We also go over that you need to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. The brain doesn’t work so well in a tired body. As I think about studying, I start to crunch up in a ball. I can feel the muscles in my neck tighten.
So I try not to stress about it. It’s just a test; my life isn’t on the line. I’ll do my best to prepare and that’s all I can do.
Afternoon
Do we make our own choices or are they influenced by others? We discuss how the choices we make are made by our values and by others around us. It’s interesting that although I may feel that I’m making my own choices, it seems as though many other things and even people have helped to shape where my choices have taken me.
Some believe they are in total control of where their life goes, but I have discovered this week that with changing values comes changing our decisions. In the exercise, I started out carefully, I’d say cautiously, making my choices. I observed others to see what they did and made my choices based on inputs from what I see happening around me.
I find this very true in my life too. I think of the expectations others had of me, the goals I had initially set upon and how I shaped my decisions. My environment and my goals were in flux early on and I adapted my choices to move me in a different direction.
I am where I am based on the decisions I made given the inputs given to me from all around.
We take on teamwork as the next area to discuss. It’s something we’ve been doing all week long, but now we take a look at what each of us thinks of it and what makes it work.
I seemed to remember that when not working alone, you should avoid the ‘I statements’ to avoid too self-centered. But from what we’ve been working on this week this is not so. We still need to express our point of view and give our personal opinions and not try to generalize or expect everyone is good with what we think.
At this point in the week, I had hoped I would be using the language more, but I find I still slip into my old ways. I think it takes more time and practice to get this to be second nature.
What really makes you happy? The warm up was to pick a page in a book of 14,000 things that make you happy. From 2 pages of options, it wasn’t easy for me and some others to find something that makes them happy. Are we that unhappy a people?
We jump into test anxiety. Flashbacks to school ensue. Feeling of dread washes over me as I recall exams and tests. School was never somewhere I was comfortable. Luckily I seemed to always do well.
Thinking about writing this exam recalls other techniques used prior in my life. Study till you have it memorized seems to be the one that worked well. But the retention was low or nil. I do the same today to learn lines for a play. Memorize and once you’ve used it, purge it from your memory – there’s something better to fill that space.
The presentations yesterday stick in my brain for certain things. The breakdown of information into smaller digestible bits is helpful. The acronyms and remembering the number of items helps to make sure I can regurgitate the information.
But to make this class really worthwhile, I need to practice what I’ve learned. Then maybe it’ll settle in my brain. It’s like muscle-memory when working out. Once you’ve trained yourself to do it a number of times, it becomes more automatic. It will spontaneously, or better yet, organically come out.
We also go over that you need to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. The brain doesn’t work so well in a tired body. As I think about studying, I start to crunch up in a ball. I can feel the muscles in my neck tighten.
So I try not to stress about it. It’s just a test; my life isn’t on the line. I’ll do my best to prepare and that’s all I can do.
Afternoon
Do we make our own choices or are they influenced by others? We discuss how the choices we make are made by our values and by others around us. It’s interesting that although I may feel that I’m making my own choices, it seems as though many other things and even people have helped to shape where my choices have taken me.
Some believe they are in total control of where their life goes, but I have discovered this week that with changing values comes changing our decisions. In the exercise, I started out carefully, I’d say cautiously, making my choices. I observed others to see what they did and made my choices based on inputs from what I see happening around me.
I find this very true in my life too. I think of the expectations others had of me, the goals I had initially set upon and how I shaped my decisions. My environment and my goals were in flux early on and I adapted my choices to move me in a different direction.
I am where I am based on the decisions I made given the inputs given to me from all around.
We take on teamwork as the next area to discuss. It’s something we’ve been doing all week long, but now we take a look at what each of us thinks of it and what makes it work.
I seemed to remember that when not working alone, you should avoid the ‘I statements’ to avoid too self-centered. But from what we’ve been working on this week this is not so. We still need to express our point of view and give our personal opinions and not try to generalize or expect everyone is good with what we think.
At this point in the week, I had hoped I would be using the language more, but I find I still slip into my old ways. I think it takes more time and practice to get this to be second nature.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Day 4
Morning
So we voted someone off the island today. Part of the group experience is to participate and engage in the class discussions. When a group member comes late all the time it disrupts the group. Even the empty chair is disturbing. I keep thinking “they’re late again”, even when we’ve been talking about this non-stop.
Now we need to learn how to adapt to a lost member. We mourn. We feel sad. We wonder how we’ll do our group presentation! We lost a member and another one is off sick today, so there are actually 2 people missing. Lots of adapting going on. We have to learn how to do this as coaches, so it’s a good experience.
I feel bad for the person not coming back, but glad that the group dynamic may pick up now. It’s hard to feel bad when someone in a group isn’t coming in on time; there’s a lack of respect for the team. Now there may be some very personal reasons that she couldn’t make back on time, but that’s not the point. A major component of the course is participating and that means coming on time. This may have just not been a good time for her to take the course.
We spend the rest of the morning working on leisure. No we don’t laze around for the morning. We discuss the importance of leisure time. We need to identify and address our feelings around leisure time and how we value it.
Again there is the intertwining of other areas we’ve already discussed. Values, disclosure, etc. we use an exercise to identify what we currently do for leisure, what we’d like to do, and how satisfied with our current level.
I’m happy with the amount of leisure time I take. I’ve got much better balance with work and leisure.
Even my theatre time has dropped back to a level where it doesn’t feel like work. There is so much I could do at the theatre that it becomes too much and I don’t enjoy it. So I’m very conscious of how I spend my time there. I feel happier with this choice. Even if others at the theatre feel that I have pulled back a bit. I still give the best I can.
Afternoon
We work on our group presentations for a while after lunch to prepare for the 3 presentations. My team goes last. I’m not sure what to expect. I tried not to lead my team to choose what I wanted for the teach-back. In other courses, I’ve usually ended up writing a skit of some kind. I let the team brainstorm and I piped in too.
We decided to do a game show – the Family Feud. Guess who got elected to be Richard Dawson. With the loss of one of our team members we quickly come up with a new plan. We’ll ask for volunteers from the group to participate as a second team.
The first 2 presentations are great. Each team employs game play in it. Stealing our idea? They use skits, quizzes, cards, and audience participation.
I am genuine impressed by the other teams. I really never expected such creativity. It’s great. I’m having some great fun now. The group is really gelling together. One team plies us with candy. Sorry, rewards us with candy; I’ll be buzzing through our presentation!
After each presentation the group gives feedback to the presenting team. It’s tough for the presenters as they are just to sit and listen to the good feedback. We are to only give feedback on what the team did well in their presentation. Afterwards, the presenting team says how they feel about the feedback. It’s been all positive and they can’t argue the facts – they did really well.
The feedback we received for our team was great. I was thrilled that they got parts that I wasn’t sure would come through in our presentation. I mean I can keep the group entertained, but getting the information across is something different.
I don’t normally enjoyed presentation teach-backs, but with only 3 teams, and they were all good, it was easy to enjoy.
We did a practice test afterwards. I purposely didn’t study last night to see how I’d do on the practice test. The presentations helped a lot in that I could remember segments of the information based on the presentations. It helped reinforce that some parts of the presentations worked really well as a teach tool.
It also highlighted that I need to study for the real test.
So we voted someone off the island today. Part of the group experience is to participate and engage in the class discussions. When a group member comes late all the time it disrupts the group. Even the empty chair is disturbing. I keep thinking “they’re late again”, even when we’ve been talking about this non-stop.
Now we need to learn how to adapt to a lost member. We mourn. We feel sad. We wonder how we’ll do our group presentation! We lost a member and another one is off sick today, so there are actually 2 people missing. Lots of adapting going on. We have to learn how to do this as coaches, so it’s a good experience.
I feel bad for the person not coming back, but glad that the group dynamic may pick up now. It’s hard to feel bad when someone in a group isn’t coming in on time; there’s a lack of respect for the team. Now there may be some very personal reasons that she couldn’t make back on time, but that’s not the point. A major component of the course is participating and that means coming on time. This may have just not been a good time for her to take the course.
We spend the rest of the morning working on leisure. No we don’t laze around for the morning. We discuss the importance of leisure time. We need to identify and address our feelings around leisure time and how we value it.
Again there is the intertwining of other areas we’ve already discussed. Values, disclosure, etc. we use an exercise to identify what we currently do for leisure, what we’d like to do, and how satisfied with our current level.
I’m happy with the amount of leisure time I take. I’ve got much better balance with work and leisure.
Even my theatre time has dropped back to a level where it doesn’t feel like work. There is so much I could do at the theatre that it becomes too much and I don’t enjoy it. So I’m very conscious of how I spend my time there. I feel happier with this choice. Even if others at the theatre feel that I have pulled back a bit. I still give the best I can.
Afternoon
We work on our group presentations for a while after lunch to prepare for the 3 presentations. My team goes last. I’m not sure what to expect. I tried not to lead my team to choose what I wanted for the teach-back. In other courses, I’ve usually ended up writing a skit of some kind. I let the team brainstorm and I piped in too.
We decided to do a game show – the Family Feud. Guess who got elected to be Richard Dawson. With the loss of one of our team members we quickly come up with a new plan. We’ll ask for volunteers from the group to participate as a second team.
The first 2 presentations are great. Each team employs game play in it. Stealing our idea? They use skits, quizzes, cards, and audience participation.
I am genuine impressed by the other teams. I really never expected such creativity. It’s great. I’m having some great fun now. The group is really gelling together. One team plies us with candy. Sorry, rewards us with candy; I’ll be buzzing through our presentation!
After each presentation the group gives feedback to the presenting team. It’s tough for the presenters as they are just to sit and listen to the good feedback. We are to only give feedback on what the team did well in their presentation. Afterwards, the presenting team says how they feel about the feedback. It’s been all positive and they can’t argue the facts – they did really well.
The feedback we received for our team was great. I was thrilled that they got parts that I wasn’t sure would come through in our presentation. I mean I can keep the group entertained, but getting the information across is something different.
I don’t normally enjoyed presentation teach-backs, but with only 3 teams, and they were all good, it was easy to enjoy.
We did a practice test afterwards. I purposely didn’t study last night to see how I’d do on the practice test. The presentations helped a lot in that I could remember segments of the information based on the presentations. It helped reinforce that some parts of the presentations worked really well as a teach tool.
It also highlighted that I need to study for the real test.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Day 3 of the Course
Morning
So today traffic caused me to be a little later than I like. In fact I made it just at 9 to the class. Power walking most of the way. But most people seemed to get in on time today, after we discussed group respect for coming on time and not disrupting the class. I figured if I was late, I earned a little understanding, as I have been early other days. But I still hate being late!
So after group confirmation that we appreciated everyone’s efforts to come on time we do the warm up. Yes I am doing warm ups. In theatre, I’m infamous for hating games to warm up. I like warm-ups, games or ice breakers when there is a purpose. But generally, I hate them.
The topic this morning is Trust. What is it and how we feel about it. We do a group exercise to draw pictures about what trust looks like to us. We all have some common ideas of what trust is to us and how we expect it to be in the world.
Those who have been burned are more hesitant with trusting, and it takes time to earn or grow trust. I like to give a certain level of trust to everyone and then increase or decrease their account based on their interactions with me.
Disclosure is a big part of trusting. As I disclose it builds a little trust with someone else. They disclose it builds a little more with me. Give and take all the time. The whole balanced self determination kicks in again. BSD is where I want to live, but it’ll take time. I’m still catching myself not using I statements.
As I reflect back, I’d like to think that I was acting in BSD, but I was likely more Other Determined, OD. I let others decide the course. But, I do usually throw in a comment or two to direct it into something I would like. Guess that’s my SD, self determination, coming out.
The group is more energized this morning – likely due to the discussion at end of day yesterday to get participation up. The quieter people are engaging. I can sit back and enjoy observing a little more. I feel good.
Afternoon:
Topic of the afternoon is Values. Looking at personal values is very interesting to me; it’s like feelings. I know I have them; just not sure I can articulate them or describe them as well as I’d like.
Luckily there is a sheet of value words! We do an exercise to pick our top 10 from a list. As I read them over, they are all values I, well, value. Each one feels like it’s something I’d support or expect from myself or others.
Picking ten isn’t too bad. We discuss the process with a partner on how it feels to go through the exercise. I pick a mix of values that are self oriented and others that I think are socially good choices.
After we discuss further, we choose our top 5. Then our top 2! Tough to do. I balance my choices with one that is more personal and the other outwardly acceptable. The choices we make are learned, inbred during up bring, influenced by society, community or whatever other experiences impact our lives.
And the group shows me, or reminds me, that we all come from different experiences and shape our values in different ways. It’s all very personal. Are values shape our choices and our behaviours.
We look at how we prioritize our values. Again it’s all so personal. We talk about how we’ve shaped our values. I am amazed by the amount of sharing and disclosure. I love the amount of diversity that is in the room.
So today traffic caused me to be a little later than I like. In fact I made it just at 9 to the class. Power walking most of the way. But most people seemed to get in on time today, after we discussed group respect for coming on time and not disrupting the class. I figured if I was late, I earned a little understanding, as I have been early other days. But I still hate being late!
So after group confirmation that we appreciated everyone’s efforts to come on time we do the warm up. Yes I am doing warm ups. In theatre, I’m infamous for hating games to warm up. I like warm-ups, games or ice breakers when there is a purpose. But generally, I hate them.
The topic this morning is Trust. What is it and how we feel about it. We do a group exercise to draw pictures about what trust looks like to us. We all have some common ideas of what trust is to us and how we expect it to be in the world.
Those who have been burned are more hesitant with trusting, and it takes time to earn or grow trust. I like to give a certain level of trust to everyone and then increase or decrease their account based on their interactions with me.
Disclosure is a big part of trusting. As I disclose it builds a little trust with someone else. They disclose it builds a little more with me. Give and take all the time. The whole balanced self determination kicks in again. BSD is where I want to live, but it’ll take time. I’m still catching myself not using I statements.
As I reflect back, I’d like to think that I was acting in BSD, but I was likely more Other Determined, OD. I let others decide the course. But, I do usually throw in a comment or two to direct it into something I would like. Guess that’s my SD, self determination, coming out.
The group is more energized this morning – likely due to the discussion at end of day yesterday to get participation up. The quieter people are engaging. I can sit back and enjoy observing a little more. I feel good.
Afternoon:
Topic of the afternoon is Values. Looking at personal values is very interesting to me; it’s like feelings. I know I have them; just not sure I can articulate them or describe them as well as I’d like.
Luckily there is a sheet of value words! We do an exercise to pick our top 10 from a list. As I read them over, they are all values I, well, value. Each one feels like it’s something I’d support or expect from myself or others.
Picking ten isn’t too bad. We discuss the process with a partner on how it feels to go through the exercise. I pick a mix of values that are self oriented and others that I think are socially good choices.
After we discuss further, we choose our top 5. Then our top 2! Tough to do. I balance my choices with one that is more personal and the other outwardly acceptable. The choices we make are learned, inbred during up bring, influenced by society, community or whatever other experiences impact our lives.
And the group shows me, or reminds me, that we all come from different experiences and shape our values in different ways. It’s all very personal. Are values shape our choices and our behaviours.
We look at how we prioritize our values. Again it’s all so personal. We talk about how we’ve shaped our values. I am amazed by the amount of sharing and disclosure. I love the amount of diversity that is in the room.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Day 2 of the Course
Morning:
The gloves are off; attendance and tardiness are noted. I can’t help myself but be early. Is that a bad thing? I think not. Note that I am speaking in the “I statement” mode. Of course, regardless of repeated warnings about the black line when showing up late, several people still came late.
We plunge head long into theory of life skills. The review of what the definition is is good; most of us remember too, it seems. The five areas that you apply life skills coaching are referred to as DACUM (designing a curriculum): self, family, community, leisure and work.
The ideas we’re generating about how to apply these new skills could be applied to one of the areas, but really they intertwine and blur across. This is good. It makes application easier as a coach and allows some different approaches to other areas.
For instance, if I’m looking to do a session on something work related, I can take a lesson plan to works on community as it will relate into work. Or even something about leisure. Who doesn’t like talking about leisure?
The discussion (or perhaps reminder) that these skills are best applied to adult education is good. There are some adults that won’t or can’t engage in group sessions and determining as a group is a good idea. No sense being the bad cop all the time as the instructor; let the group help decide where the group is going.
We have 13 areas of theory to cover. They are nicely broken into smaller digestible pieces, and we get breaks fairly frequently. I hate the feeling of head bobs as I get tired. It’s not the subject or speaker, just a room with oxygen being sucked out and sun pouring in. It has been a while since I’ve had to sit and learn for 8 hours a day.
Finding the sweet spot of the skills is working towards balanced self determination. Not too much about ME and not all about OTHERS. Somewhere in the middle where we can all win. Is there truly a win-win situation?
Afternoon:
We continue with a bit more theory. We talk about the philosophy of life skills. This covers all of what we’d covered so far and makes it all look cohesive.
Trust the process. So they keep saying. Part of what’s happening in the class is that we discover more about ourselves. The behaviours we discuss and practice help us so that we can model them when coaching.
Trouble is that when you aren’t quite at the right level to model all behaviours, it requires a little more thought to make sure you’re doing it properly. It’s like trying to make sure you use “I statements”. Practice makes perfect, I guess.
Same with trying to give effective feedback. I know I should discuss how something feels to me and its impact on me when trying to talk to someone else. We try to discuss topics by exploring how something ‘feels’ to us. Problem is that I don’t think I’m good at doing that (or others it seems).
When trying to express feeling, we tend to start statements with “I feel” but that is just a different way to say “I think” or “I believe”; not a true statement of feeling. So we now have a list of feeling words to use in the class. This should help when trying to describe a true feeling.
We also have been assigned a group project today. It’s a teach back session that we need to do on Wednesday. The team has some forming and storming to go through until we norm into a team. We get some good ideas together on how we’re going to do our segments and make it fun at the same time.
The gloves are off; attendance and tardiness are noted. I can’t help myself but be early. Is that a bad thing? I think not. Note that I am speaking in the “I statement” mode. Of course, regardless of repeated warnings about the black line when showing up late, several people still came late.
We plunge head long into theory of life skills. The review of what the definition is is good; most of us remember too, it seems. The five areas that you apply life skills coaching are referred to as DACUM (designing a curriculum): self, family, community, leisure and work.
The ideas we’re generating about how to apply these new skills could be applied to one of the areas, but really they intertwine and blur across. This is good. It makes application easier as a coach and allows some different approaches to other areas.
For instance, if I’m looking to do a session on something work related, I can take a lesson plan to works on community as it will relate into work. Or even something about leisure. Who doesn’t like talking about leisure?
The discussion (or perhaps reminder) that these skills are best applied to adult education is good. There are some adults that won’t or can’t engage in group sessions and determining as a group is a good idea. No sense being the bad cop all the time as the instructor; let the group help decide where the group is going.
We have 13 areas of theory to cover. They are nicely broken into smaller digestible pieces, and we get breaks fairly frequently. I hate the feeling of head bobs as I get tired. It’s not the subject or speaker, just a room with oxygen being sucked out and sun pouring in. It has been a while since I’ve had to sit and learn for 8 hours a day.
Finding the sweet spot of the skills is working towards balanced self determination. Not too much about ME and not all about OTHERS. Somewhere in the middle where we can all win. Is there truly a win-win situation?
Afternoon:
We continue with a bit more theory. We talk about the philosophy of life skills. This covers all of what we’d covered so far and makes it all look cohesive.
Trust the process. So they keep saying. Part of what’s happening in the class is that we discover more about ourselves. The behaviours we discuss and practice help us so that we can model them when coaching.
Trouble is that when you aren’t quite at the right level to model all behaviours, it requires a little more thought to make sure you’re doing it properly. It’s like trying to make sure you use “I statements”. Practice makes perfect, I guess.
Same with trying to give effective feedback. I know I should discuss how something feels to me and its impact on me when trying to talk to someone else. We try to discuss topics by exploring how something ‘feels’ to us. Problem is that I don’t think I’m good at doing that (or others it seems).
When trying to express feeling, we tend to start statements with “I feel” but that is just a different way to say “I think” or “I believe”; not a true statement of feeling. So we now have a list of feeling words to use in the class. This should help when trying to describe a true feeling.
We also have been assigned a group project today. It’s a teach back session that we need to do on Wednesday. The team has some forming and storming to go through until we norm into a team. We get some good ideas together on how we’re going to do our segments and make it fun at the same time.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
On Course for a week
So this week I am on course at George Brown College taking a class for Life Skills Coaching. This is help me be a better all-round coach. So as part of the course, we are to write a journal for each day. I thought I would post my daily journals as part of my blog.
Day 1
Morning:
What on earth am I doing out on a Sunday morning? Driving downtown, parking and wandering around trying to find a room for the course. At least it’s not a Monday morning and it’s crazy busy down here. Nice sunny day, no traffic, pleasant people; good start.
Finding the room – another challenge. I knew where the main building for GBC was and found the list, but I didn’t understand the room coding. I was trying to find the room in building D and not knowing it referred to the corrider. Anyway, I found it all in good time; second one there which is good.
We’re just getting accustom to one another today and getting the lay of the land on what to expect over the next week. Not quite sure I’m totally in tune with what the course will give me. Guess it’ll depend on how much I put in.
Now I can be a talker or a quite one; depends on the crowd. Participation counts, so I’ll try for somewhere in the middle. Hopefully the others will have interesting levels of participation and offer great stories. No one wants to listen to me all the time.
One thing I hope I get out of this is an understanding of how to apply these skills in corporate and non-corporate environments. I draw my experiences from corporate work but also from theatre.
Still pondering if I will continue to take the 2nd course and then the 3rd. I’ll see how this group gels together as I would likely be in with them the next time too. Getting certified is a goal, but I need to ensure it’s the right program for my ultimate path.
Afternoon:
We start the afternoon with defining Life Skills. Essentially problem solving to manage personal affairs covering by 5 areas of life: self, family, community, leisure and job.
It was suggested to me before I chose to come to this course that I should look for a program that is more corporate coaching focused. I then had another recommendation that life skills coaching is just as good as corporate coaching, but encompasses whole life experiences not just work life. This made a little more sense to me. Plus this course was cheaper.
We also spent more time learning about everyone in the class. The alphabet exercise was great. It was interesting trying to come up with a word that means something to me. Helps you see things about yourself too. How many words can you think of that start with Z that mean something to you?
This was all about disclosure. Interesting how disclosure opens you up and lets people see you better. We find the similarities that bind us together or common interests within the group. We have to have something other than this course in common.
It also builds trust in the group. Every little bit you reveal allows others to feel more comfortable in opening up. It’s one brick at time to build a house. We build it because we have got to live in it together for a week.
Day 1
Morning:
What on earth am I doing out on a Sunday morning? Driving downtown, parking and wandering around trying to find a room for the course. At least it’s not a Monday morning and it’s crazy busy down here. Nice sunny day, no traffic, pleasant people; good start.
Finding the room – another challenge. I knew where the main building for GBC was and found the list, but I didn’t understand the room coding. I was trying to find the room in building D and not knowing it referred to the corrider. Anyway, I found it all in good time; second one there which is good.
We’re just getting accustom to one another today and getting the lay of the land on what to expect over the next week. Not quite sure I’m totally in tune with what the course will give me. Guess it’ll depend on how much I put in.
Now I can be a talker or a quite one; depends on the crowd. Participation counts, so I’ll try for somewhere in the middle. Hopefully the others will have interesting levels of participation and offer great stories. No one wants to listen to me all the time.
One thing I hope I get out of this is an understanding of how to apply these skills in corporate and non-corporate environments. I draw my experiences from corporate work but also from theatre.
Still pondering if I will continue to take the 2nd course and then the 3rd. I’ll see how this group gels together as I would likely be in with them the next time too. Getting certified is a goal, but I need to ensure it’s the right program for my ultimate path.
Afternoon:
We start the afternoon with defining Life Skills. Essentially problem solving to manage personal affairs covering by 5 areas of life: self, family, community, leisure and job.
It was suggested to me before I chose to come to this course that I should look for a program that is more corporate coaching focused. I then had another recommendation that life skills coaching is just as good as corporate coaching, but encompasses whole life experiences not just work life. This made a little more sense to me. Plus this course was cheaper.
We also spent more time learning about everyone in the class. The alphabet exercise was great. It was interesting trying to come up with a word that means something to me. Helps you see things about yourself too. How many words can you think of that start with Z that mean something to you?
This was all about disclosure. Interesting how disclosure opens you up and lets people see you better. We find the similarities that bind us together or common interests within the group. We have to have something other than this course in common.
It also builds trust in the group. Every little bit you reveal allows others to feel more comfortable in opening up. It’s one brick at time to build a house. We build it because we have got to live in it together for a week.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Do what you love, or at least what you like
Having been through 'restructuring' a couple of times now, my best advice is to take it slow, gather your thoughts, and figure out what it is you want to do.
Now the first thing that you usually do after being let go is to be angry or hurt. It's okay to feel this. But don't hang on to it. This is happening to lots of people - you aren't that special. The company needed to make changes and that happened to impact you and likely several others. Doesn't mean there was anything wrong with you. So dust yourself off and move on.
So the next thing you do is panic that you need to find a job right away. This does depend on your financial situation and whether you got a decent package from your company. Don't panic; take some time to get over the emotions of what has just happened. Talk to your friends and family; rely on your support groups now.
If you have the extra resources from a Career Transition company, like Knightsbridge, make sure you use them. Even if you feel that you can do it yourself! I felt that because I'd been through this before that I didn't really need to use the services. Everyone can learn from these services no matter what your level of experience is in finding a new job. I learned lots - you can too.
You can always look to independent career consultants to help you too, if this wasn't part of your package. Also, if you still have your EAP (Employee Assistance Program) available, they often have career services available along with lots of other programs to help you through this transition time.
So now you've dealt with the emotions, caught your breath, and taken some time to gather yourself. The obvious thing to do when you actually start your job search is to look for a similar job, right? Not always. Think about it - did you LOVE your job?
Better to take the time and determine what your skill set is and what types of jobs and companies would be of interest to you. You may find that you keep putting yourself into jobs that fit the old you. You've learned many things over the years, and you may have found yourself drawn or maybe pushed into new directions.
Often times, you hold yourself back because you feel you don't have the skills or education or certification. Don't downplay the power of on-the-job experience. Don't get me wrong; formal education and certification are great things too. My point is we don't try new things because we feel we're just not good enough or some other nonsense.
Start an inventory of what your skills are and the types of jobs that you've enjoyed. Instead of thinking of yourself as a project manager, software developer, tech support, marketing manager, etc, look at the skills you used in those roles and see what aspects stand out for you.
You may find that being a project manager isn't what interests you the most, but the interaction with people on the team and the client relationships are. So instead of thinking of yourself as just a project manager and looking only for PM jobs, you can now look for a job that has more people interaction.
This may still not tell you what you love to do. I wish there was a Magic 8 Ball to tell me the answers. You still need to do the work. Sorry. But hopefully you'll see other opportunities for yourself.
Also, make sure your network knows what you are looking for. Most of my network has been great at sending me leads for technology project management roles. Thank you. I obviously didn't do a good job telling people what I really do. A friend told me that I was like Chandler on Friends; no one knew what I really did for work. Eyes open now!
You can do all the navel gazing you want to determine your dream job. Your inventory of skills and experience may still show that you need some more education or experience to get there. But you should now have a better idea of the direction you want to go in.
I've managed over the past few years to change my direction from technology to human resources. I still have further to go, but my train is going the right way now.
I also appreciate the fact that it may be easier to find a job in a similar role or field than to wait for this new found direction to come through for you. You can make the change over the next few years; it won't likely be overnight. Hopefully it helps you keep an eye on where you could now go so that you start building experiences that will eventually take you to your new destination.
And what if you just don't know what you might love? Try lots of new things. New experiences in jobs or companies you wouldn't normally apply for may open up new ideas for you. Be open to new opportunities and they will come.
SHH
Now the first thing that you usually do after being let go is to be angry or hurt. It's okay to feel this. But don't hang on to it. This is happening to lots of people - you aren't that special. The company needed to make changes and that happened to impact you and likely several others. Doesn't mean there was anything wrong with you. So dust yourself off and move on.
So the next thing you do is panic that you need to find a job right away. This does depend on your financial situation and whether you got a decent package from your company. Don't panic; take some time to get over the emotions of what has just happened. Talk to your friends and family; rely on your support groups now.
If you have the extra resources from a Career Transition company, like Knightsbridge, make sure you use them. Even if you feel that you can do it yourself! I felt that because I'd been through this before that I didn't really need to use the services. Everyone can learn from these services no matter what your level of experience is in finding a new job. I learned lots - you can too.
You can always look to independent career consultants to help you too, if this wasn't part of your package. Also, if you still have your EAP (Employee Assistance Program) available, they often have career services available along with lots of other programs to help you through this transition time.
So now you've dealt with the emotions, caught your breath, and taken some time to gather yourself. The obvious thing to do when you actually start your job search is to look for a similar job, right? Not always. Think about it - did you LOVE your job?
Better to take the time and determine what your skill set is and what types of jobs and companies would be of interest to you. You may find that you keep putting yourself into jobs that fit the old you. You've learned many things over the years, and you may have found yourself drawn or maybe pushed into new directions.
Often times, you hold yourself back because you feel you don't have the skills or education or certification. Don't downplay the power of on-the-job experience. Don't get me wrong; formal education and certification are great things too. My point is we don't try new things because we feel we're just not good enough or some other nonsense.
Start an inventory of what your skills are and the types of jobs that you've enjoyed. Instead of thinking of yourself as a project manager, software developer, tech support, marketing manager, etc, look at the skills you used in those roles and see what aspects stand out for you.
You may find that being a project manager isn't what interests you the most, but the interaction with people on the team and the client relationships are. So instead of thinking of yourself as just a project manager and looking only for PM jobs, you can now look for a job that has more people interaction.
This may still not tell you what you love to do. I wish there was a Magic 8 Ball to tell me the answers. You still need to do the work. Sorry. But hopefully you'll see other opportunities for yourself.
Also, make sure your network knows what you are looking for. Most of my network has been great at sending me leads for technology project management roles. Thank you. I obviously didn't do a good job telling people what I really do. A friend told me that I was like Chandler on Friends; no one knew what I really did for work. Eyes open now!
You can do all the navel gazing you want to determine your dream job. Your inventory of skills and experience may still show that you need some more education or experience to get there. But you should now have a better idea of the direction you want to go in.
I've managed over the past few years to change my direction from technology to human resources. I still have further to go, but my train is going the right way now.
I also appreciate the fact that it may be easier to find a job in a similar role or field than to wait for this new found direction to come through for you. You can make the change over the next few years; it won't likely be overnight. Hopefully it helps you keep an eye on where you could now go so that you start building experiences that will eventually take you to your new destination.
And what if you just don't know what you might love? Try lots of new things. New experiences in jobs or companies you wouldn't normally apply for may open up new ideas for you. Be open to new opportunities and they will come.
SHH
Monday, February 23, 2009
Full time job!
No, I have not found a full time job. It seems that time is not infinite when you are not working.
I try to treat job hunting as a F/T job, but I also believe in balance. You can drive yourself crazy scanning job sites - which of course is not the best way to find a job (network! network! network!). So I put time into the gym (good for mind and body), house work (I hate cleaning, but I can manage laundry), and a few little projects around the house (they actually get done when you don't have to work 40+ hours a week). But you do need to put time into the job hunt.
So now that you know that scanning job ads is not the most productive way to find a job, you need to get out and network. Not as easy as it seems. When was the last time you talked to someone in your business network just for the sake of staying in touch? Hmm? How about lunch? A coffee? No. Too busy at work right?
Starting to network when you are suddenly out of work is TOO LATE. Okay, sorry for the all caps. You still have plenty of time. Really. Please don't cry.
So even I, who has changed jobs a few times, sometimes don't have the time to invest in networking.
I have worked at a few companies and usually hang on to a couple of good friends from each place. So the networking there is somewhat easy, cause I like having lunch with them anyway. So long as we work near each other or try to plan a brunch a couple of times a year.
But sometimes you just need to send out a ping (or poke in Facebook terminology) to make sure that people remember you. Not everyone is keeping up on their networking are they? When was the last time someone contacted you just to keep in touch? Were they looking for a job at the time?
We all go through times when we need a job and your friends and past colleagues are your best source. Most people don't take offence to you touching base and asking about job opportunities.
Some people only contact me when they need a job reference or want to discuss changing jobs. I guess I've made a good impression, or they figure if I can change jobs fairly easily that I can offer some help. No problem! Love to help.
But I don't begrudge the fact that they are looking for help. We will all need it some day. Give back to the universe as it will give it back to you when you need it.
I do not have a magic list of jobs waiting to be filled, nor do I have a huge list of high ranking execs looking for people. I just have some good 'practices' that help when you need them.
The best time to network is while you are still working. Too late right? Just remember this when you get back to working. For now, start working your network. Get the word out that you are looking for a new opportunity. The more people that know you are looking the better. But make sure they know what you want.
So back to the full time job of job hunting. You need to put the time in. It's that simple. Mind you, it is totally okay to take some time when first laid off to relax, recover, rethink. Don't panic and start looking for a job the next day. Take the time to navel gaze, think about what you want to be when you grow up (if ever), inventory what you like and don't like.
Sometimes, what you've been doing isn't what you were cut out to do, or maybe there is something else you really want to do.
And maybe having a full time job isn't what you want at all. I've always thought working for a living was overrated anyway.
SHH
I try to treat job hunting as a F/T job, but I also believe in balance. You can drive yourself crazy scanning job sites - which of course is not the best way to find a job (network! network! network!). So I put time into the gym (good for mind and body), house work (I hate cleaning, but I can manage laundry), and a few little projects around the house (they actually get done when you don't have to work 40+ hours a week). But you do need to put time into the job hunt.
So now that you know that scanning job ads is not the most productive way to find a job, you need to get out and network. Not as easy as it seems. When was the last time you talked to someone in your business network just for the sake of staying in touch? Hmm? How about lunch? A coffee? No. Too busy at work right?
Starting to network when you are suddenly out of work is TOO LATE. Okay, sorry for the all caps. You still have plenty of time. Really. Please don't cry.
So even I, who has changed jobs a few times, sometimes don't have the time to invest in networking.
I have worked at a few companies and usually hang on to a couple of good friends from each place. So the networking there is somewhat easy, cause I like having lunch with them anyway. So long as we work near each other or try to plan a brunch a couple of times a year.
But sometimes you just need to send out a ping (or poke in Facebook terminology) to make sure that people remember you. Not everyone is keeping up on their networking are they? When was the last time someone contacted you just to keep in touch? Were they looking for a job at the time?
We all go through times when we need a job and your friends and past colleagues are your best source. Most people don't take offence to you touching base and asking about job opportunities.
Some people only contact me when they need a job reference or want to discuss changing jobs. I guess I've made a good impression, or they figure if I can change jobs fairly easily that I can offer some help. No problem! Love to help.
But I don't begrudge the fact that they are looking for help. We will all need it some day. Give back to the universe as it will give it back to you when you need it.
I do not have a magic list of jobs waiting to be filled, nor do I have a huge list of high ranking execs looking for people. I just have some good 'practices' that help when you need them.
The best time to network is while you are still working. Too late right? Just remember this when you get back to working. For now, start working your network. Get the word out that you are looking for a new opportunity. The more people that know you are looking the better. But make sure they know what you want.
So back to the full time job of job hunting. You need to put the time in. It's that simple. Mind you, it is totally okay to take some time when first laid off to relax, recover, rethink. Don't panic and start looking for a job the next day. Take the time to navel gaze, think about what you want to be when you grow up (if ever), inventory what you like and don't like.
Sometimes, what you've been doing isn't what you were cut out to do, or maybe there is something else you really want to do.
And maybe having a full time job isn't what you want at all. I've always thought working for a living was overrated anyway.
SHH
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Job Searching is itself a job
When they say you need to treat looking for a job just like a real job - they mean it.
You spend lots of time working on it, you get bored from time to time, you have snack breaks, work on it through the day, wonder where the time goes and finally are very glad when you quit for the day.
Mind you, I think I have better balance when I'm job searching, and in this case am not currently working while searching. Yes money running out is an issue, but it's amazing how much you save by not going to work, buying coffee and lunch, and anything else you use your cash for.
I only need to go to the bank for a cash infusion once every couple of weeks. While working it was every week or more often!
I also get to the gym a little later in the morning, but I'm home and working by 10am! Some people don't actually do any work till 10am, even if they've been in the office since 8am! Mind you, they are getting paid to be there. No one is paying me to be here. But money is still my main motivator. I need a job that will pay the bills. If I can also fing a job that I like maybe even finally LOVE would be an incredible bonus.
So the level of reserve funds impacts what I settle for in ways of a job. So far, I am still navel gazing a bit on what I can apply my fairly broad skill set to. Oh, I am applying for jobs, but I'm staring to look at the less traditional jobs that I would have looked at before.
My Mother still tells her friends I work in 'computers' which is IT mainly. I did once working on a technical help desk, I programmed code, built servers and applications. But I then moved towards more people oriented jobs. I kept getting moved into management roles with staff reporting to me. I've also been in consulting, worked for small companies, and fairly large corporations. Departments I've been in include HR, Learning, Sales, and of course Technology.
Well, I'm not sure blogging is part of my job description, so I should get back to 'work'. Of course, as my own boss, I could make it a prioroity!
SHH
You spend lots of time working on it, you get bored from time to time, you have snack breaks, work on it through the day, wonder where the time goes and finally are very glad when you quit for the day.
Mind you, I think I have better balance when I'm job searching, and in this case am not currently working while searching. Yes money running out is an issue, but it's amazing how much you save by not going to work, buying coffee and lunch, and anything else you use your cash for.
I only need to go to the bank for a cash infusion once every couple of weeks. While working it was every week or more often!
I also get to the gym a little later in the morning, but I'm home and working by 10am! Some people don't actually do any work till 10am, even if they've been in the office since 8am! Mind you, they are getting paid to be there. No one is paying me to be here. But money is still my main motivator. I need a job that will pay the bills. If I can also fing a job that I like maybe even finally LOVE would be an incredible bonus.
So the level of reserve funds impacts what I settle for in ways of a job. So far, I am still navel gazing a bit on what I can apply my fairly broad skill set to. Oh, I am applying for jobs, but I'm staring to look at the less traditional jobs that I would have looked at before.
My Mother still tells her friends I work in 'computers' which is IT mainly. I did once working on a technical help desk, I programmed code, built servers and applications. But I then moved towards more people oriented jobs. I kept getting moved into management roles with staff reporting to me. I've also been in consulting, worked for small companies, and fairly large corporations. Departments I've been in include HR, Learning, Sales, and of course Technology.
Well, I'm not sure blogging is part of my job description, so I should get back to 'work'. Of course, as my own boss, I could make it a prioroity!
SHH
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